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		<title>By: Shanna Ladd</title>
		<link>http://www.commutebybike.com/2012/03/09/marital-aids/comment-page-1/#comment-1829799</link>
		<dc:creator>Shanna Ladd</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Apr 2013 06:13:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The thing that is a challenge right now for me is having enough down time... home time. I hear it often from other moms with a family &amp; kids. There is just so much to do in addition to work outside the home. It isn&#039;t that driving a car made life less hectic for me. but it seemed like it should. And like you mentioned we have been well educated into believing the car will help us be more efficient even if it doesn&#039;t. Your message is quite powerful, positive and makes a difference. The bike set up looks very nice. Simplifying life is helping me get a handle on this issue.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The thing that is a challenge right now for me is having enough down time&#8230; home time. I hear it often from other moms with a family &amp; kids. There is just so much to do in addition to work outside the home. It isn&#8217;t that driving a car made life less hectic for me. but it seemed like it should. And like you mentioned we have been well educated into believing the car will help us be more efficient even if it doesn&#8217;t. Your message is quite powerful, positive and makes a difference. The bike set up looks very nice. Simplifying life is helping me get a handle on this issue.</p>
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		<title>By: NS</title>
		<link>http://www.commutebybike.com/2012/03/09/marital-aids/comment-page-1/#comment-845518</link>
		<dc:creator>NS</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Mar 2012 17:50:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;ve also been trying to get my OLD young lady to get on two wheels.  We are both 30, but I just can&#039;t seem to get her on two wheels for longer than the end of the street and back.  She blames it on the convenience factor, and if its 1 or 2 degrees too hot/cold forget it.  I think she&#039;s just lazy, and whats more annoying is after watching my body transform(not in to a robot) to a healthier me, it is now impossible for HER to get fit, because of the SAME resons(excuses)keeping her from getting on a bike(now the only way anyone in this world looses weight)... just wondering if this is a familiar story throughout commuting/cycling families, or should say &quot;singles&quot;... bad i know.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve also been trying to get my OLD young lady to get on two wheels.  We are both 30, but I just can&#8217;t seem to get her on two wheels for longer than the end of the street and back.  She blames it on the convenience factor, and if its 1 or 2 degrees too hot/cold forget it.  I think she&#8217;s just lazy, and whats more annoying is after watching my body transform(not in to a robot) to a healthier me, it is now impossible for HER to get fit, because of the SAME resons(excuses)keeping her from getting on a bike(now the only way anyone in this world looses weight)&#8230; just wondering if this is a familiar story throughout commuting/cycling families, or should say &#8220;singles&#8221;&#8230; bad i know.</p>
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		<title>By: Cheryl</title>
		<link>http://www.commutebybike.com/2012/03/09/marital-aids/comment-page-1/#comment-831550</link>
		<dc:creator>Cheryl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:44:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Tsk, tsk..... Most of us who start riding and walk up the hills at the start know nothing about the mechanics. We have a bike or just bought one like we had as kids 50 years ago. I have 3 gears and coaster brakes. The old grannies you see walking up are the ones that didn&#039;t QUIT after the first hill! I told my husband at the time this isn&#039;t fun and is humiliating. But we still bike weekends. I&#039;ve only heard about granny gears the last few months when I started reading some bike blogs.... We bought our bikes   7 years ago. I have a Townie :-D
Keep biking!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tsk, tsk&#8230;.. Most of us who start riding and walk up the hills at the start know nothing about the mechanics. We have a bike or just bought one like we had as kids 50 years ago. I have 3 gears and coaster brakes. The old grannies you see walking up are the ones that didn&#8217;t QUIT after the first hill! I told my husband at the time this isn&#8217;t fun and is humiliating. But we still bike weekends. I&#8217;ve only heard about granny gears the last few months when I started reading some bike blogs&#8230;. We bought our bikes   7 years ago. I have a Townie <img src='http://www.commutebybike.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':-D' class='wp-smiley' /><br />
Keep biking!</p>
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		<title>By: Karen</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Mar 2012 01:18:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Definitely add some fenders.  They are very nice to have around during monsoon season and when the snow is melting in the winter.  You know, I believe Absolute has some Breezers on sale . . . .</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Definitely add some fenders.  They are very nice to have around during monsoon season and when the snow is melting in the winter.  You know, I believe Absolute has some Breezers on sale . . . .</p>
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		<title>By: Mark H</title>
		<link>http://www.commutebybike.com/2012/03/09/marital-aids/comment-page-1/#comment-826051</link>
		<dc:creator>Mark H</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:14:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@KYouell: If you have a bakfiets with internal gear hub, it&#039;s a bit complicated to put on a granny ring since you need a rear derailleur or something to take up slack in the chain. And there will be chainguard clearance problems if you have one.

One common thing to do to get a lower gear is to put on a larger rear cog (you&#039;ll probably have to replace your chain too). The drawback there is that you also reduce your high gear.

To have your cake and eat it too you can either get a new hub with wider gearing, or get something like the Schlumpf Mountain-Drive bottom bracket/crankset (which will act like a much smaller chainring- though it might actually be too low).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@KYouell: If you have a bakfiets with internal gear hub, it&#8217;s a bit complicated to put on a granny ring since you need a rear derailleur or something to take up slack in the chain. And there will be chainguard clearance problems if you have one.</p>
<p>One common thing to do to get a lower gear is to put on a larger rear cog (you&#8217;ll probably have to replace your chain too). The drawback there is that you also reduce your high gear.</p>
<p>To have your cake and eat it too you can either get a new hub with wider gearing, or get something like the Schlumpf Mountain-Drive bottom bracket/crankset (which will act like a much smaller chainring- though it might actually be too low).</p>
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		<title>By: Ted Johnson</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ted Johnson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 23:36:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I told my wife about your suggestion, Andrew, and she said she knows manipulation when she sees it -- and it wouldn&#039;t work.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I told my wife about your suggestion, Andrew, and she said she knows manipulation when she sees it &#8212; and it wouldn&#8217;t work.</p>
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		<title>By: Robert</title>
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		<dc:creator>Robert</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 20:55:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>When my wife started spin class, I almost yelled in anger. I bike commute so that she can drive to ride in a gym. I&#039;m very glad I held back my opinion about this because now she and I ride together once a week, on the road and sometimes trails! Since gears seemed to be a challenge, I gave her my IGH commuter (see Bianchi San Jos8 at Sheldon B) and BINGO! She loved it. A brooks B17 (women&#039;s) and 24 miles were no problem. I&#039;m going to stoke the bike love with some matching bar tape for mothers day. I&#039;ve kept the kids spinning through the years and now I need to work on them to push mommy to ride them to school instead of driving..... never give up!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When my wife started spin class, I almost yelled in anger. I bike commute so that she can drive to ride in a gym. I&#8217;m very glad I held back my opinion about this because now she and I ride together once a week, on the road and sometimes trails! Since gears seemed to be a challenge, I gave her my IGH commuter (see Bianchi San Jos8 at Sheldon B) and BINGO! She loved it. A brooks B17 (women&#8217;s) and 24 miles were no problem. I&#8217;m going to stoke the bike love with some matching bar tape for mothers day. I&#8217;ve kept the kids spinning through the years and now I need to work on them to push mommy to ride them to school instead of driving&#8230;.. never give up!</p>
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		<title>By: Graham</title>
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		<dc:creator>Graham</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:46:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If you&#039;re successful, please let me know how you did it. I&#039;ve been trying to get the Mrs. into cycling for a few years now, and while she isn&#039;t averse to the idea, it hasn&#039;t really seemed to click with her.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you&#8217;re successful, please let me know how you did it. I&#8217;ve been trying to get the Mrs. into cycling for a few years now, and while she isn&#8217;t averse to the idea, it hasn&#8217;t really seemed to click with her.</p>
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		<title>By: Ted Johnson</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ted Johnson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Mar 2012 23:19:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;blockquote&gt;I don’t know your wife...&lt;/blockquote&gt;

A couple things about my wife:

First: She&#039;s a helluva pedestrian. When she gets out of her gotta-get-things-done mode and can relax, she&#039;ll walk anywhere. And even though she&#039;s about five inches shorter than me, I can hardly keep pace with her on foot. She has no aversion to effort. To her, driving is about time management. (I wouldn&#039;t want you to think she&#039;s some kind of lard ass who doesn&#039;t like to move her body.)

Second: We live in a fairly dry place. Fenders aren&#039;t a necessity most of the time -- but I&#039;m considering putting fenders on the Motiv. She likes the bike she has. We&#039;ve talked about getting her a new bike. If I thought that was the magic bullet, I&#039;d pull the trigger.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>I don’t know your wife&#8230;</p></blockquote>
<p>A couple things about my wife:</p>
<p>First: She&#8217;s a helluva pedestrian. When she gets out of her gotta-get-things-done mode and can relax, she&#8217;ll walk anywhere. And even though she&#8217;s about five inches shorter than me, I can hardly keep pace with her on foot. She has no aversion to effort. To her, driving is about time management. (I wouldn&#8217;t want you to think she&#8217;s some kind of lard ass who doesn&#8217;t like to move her body.)</p>
<p>Second: We live in a fairly dry place. Fenders aren&#8217;t a necessity most of the time &#8212; but I&#8217;m considering putting fenders on the Motiv. She likes the bike she has. We&#8217;ve talked about getting her a new bike. If I thought that was the magic bullet, I&#8217;d pull the trigger.</p>
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		<title>By: Kevin Love</title>
		<link>http://www.commutebybike.com/2012/03/09/marital-aids/comment-page-1/#comment-820758</link>
		<dc:creator>Kevin Love</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:59:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Ted, and thanks for a fascinating post.

I&#039;ve just got two comments:

1.  I agree with Andrew.  You really do need a better bike.  If I were your wife I too would be disinclined to cycle on that bike.  To start with, the lack of fenders means that if the road is wet she will be showered with filth.  I don&#039;t know your wife, but my experience is that few women really enjoy being showered with filth.  I recommend David Hembrow&#039;s excellent description of a proper utility bike here:

http://www.aviewfromthecyclepath.com/2009/01/anatomy-of-reliable-everyday-bicycle.html

As to convincing your wife to give up the car, I would recommend looking at the financial benefits of going car-free.  Interestingly enough, my best source is CAA.  See their handy car costs calculation guide here:

http://www.caa.ca/documents/DrivingCostsBrochure-jan09-eng-v3.pdf#search=&quot;costs&quot;

Please note that they cleverly leave out car parking costs, which can be quite high.  Where I live, if I wanted to drive my car to work, I would have to pay about $200  per month to park the car near where I live and another $200 per month to park the car near where I work.  With taxes, that would be well over $5,000 per year.

Even if I were to live in far-flung suburbia, if I wanted to own a car there would still be capital and maintenance costs for a garage and driveway.

When you add up all the costs, odds are your wife&#039;s car habit is costing over $10,000 per year.  You can have a conversation along the lines of &quot;Going car-free would allow us to retire XX years earlier.&quot; 

Or do whatever else you want with the money!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Ted, and thanks for a fascinating post.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve just got two comments:</p>
<p>1.  I agree with Andrew.  You really do need a better bike.  If I were your wife I too would be disinclined to cycle on that bike.  To start with, the lack of fenders means that if the road is wet she will be showered with filth.  I don&#8217;t know your wife, but my experience is that few women really enjoy being showered with filth.  I recommend David Hembrow&#8217;s excellent description of a proper utility bike here:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.aviewfromthecyclepath.com/2009/01/anatomy-of-reliable-everyday-bicycle.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.aviewfromthecyclepath.com/2009/01/anatomy-of-reliable-everyday-bicycle.html</a></p>
<p>As to convincing your wife to give up the car, I would recommend looking at the financial benefits of going car-free.  Interestingly enough, my best source is CAA.  See their handy car costs calculation guide here:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.caa.ca/documents/DrivingCostsBrochure-jan09-eng-v3.pdf#search=" rel="nofollow">http://www.caa.ca/documents/DrivingCostsBrochure-jan09-eng-v3.pdf#search=</a>&#8220;costs&#8221;</p>
<p>Please note that they cleverly leave out car parking costs, which can be quite high.  Where I live, if I wanted to drive my car to work, I would have to pay about $200  per month to park the car near where I live and another $200 per month to park the car near where I work.  With taxes, that would be well over $5,000 per year.</p>
<p>Even if I were to live in far-flung suburbia, if I wanted to own a car there would still be capital and maintenance costs for a garage and driveway.</p>
<p>When you add up all the costs, odds are your wife&#8217;s car habit is costing over $10,000 per year.  You can have a conversation along the lines of &#8220;Going car-free would allow us to retire XX years earlier.&#8221; </p>
<p>Or do whatever else you want with the money!</p>
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